Advice to Oursevles

This specific can be an imaginary letter via people we work with in East Africa to us . . . garnered via our own plentiful mistakes when we have had friends who were brave enough to tell us what we needed to hear.  of which can be compiled here to help all us North Americans listen as well as learn. of which has nothing to do with This specific photo, yet I like This specific photo . . 


Dear Cross-cultural worker –

We want a partnership with you, as well as we see you have a lot to offer us.  You have great training, as well as you believe in what you are doing here.  We respect of which. We like the way you’ve brought your family to our place.  So let us tell you a few things of which will help you have an impact as well as enjoy your time.

Short answer:  of which’s all about investing in relationships.  

As you come, we assume you aren’t going to stay long, so we often hold back.  We also fear of which you don’t particularly like our food or houses, which seem inferior to yours, so we’re reluctant to reach out to you.  You might think God told you to come here, yet He didn’t necessarily tell us!  So you need to come into our place FIRST asking questions about whether you are needed as well as where, as well as how you can come alongside us.  Then you will need to do the work to come across to us.  If you plan events where we can interact on equal terms, if you can share food with us, if you can stop as well as talk to us, if you can ask questions, of which builds a bridge with us.  of which makes us feel seen as human beings. 

When you come, learn our language.  Know about our country, notice not bad things about of which, write some positives in your blogs as well as letters showing of which you actually like This specific place.  Don’t make everything sound desperate.  Don’t make of which sound like you’re the only one working, all alone, taking credit for everything of which happens.  Mention us. Pray for our country too!

God can be merciful, as well as even though God can be just, God doesn’t keep a scorecard of everything we do wrong.  Sometimes of which seems like you notice every single deficiency as well as call us out on of which.  You even seem surprised when things end up going well in spite of our mistakes, as if of which doesn’t make sense since we didn’t do of which your way.  Try to understand our limitations, try to adjust to fresh ways.  Ask us about our family obligations, ask why we need time away, ask who can be depending on our salary, realize of which we don’t have a buffer like you do.  Notice what kind of schooling options we have for our kids, as well as how of which’s different via yours.  In fact many of us are sacrificing to work with you, yet we aren’t admired for of which, as well as when we go home no one buys us dinner or lends us a car, instead they ask us for help.

We do appreciate all you’ve given up, yet think about of which This specific way:  you sometimes want to complain to us about how hard of which’s been for you, yet your lifestyle here can be still far above what we can desire for.  So don’t expect us to feel too sorry for you.

Sometimes we will have conflicts.  All people do.  Here, we don’t feel comfortable being as direct as you are. If you want to correct or change something, pull us aside as well as tell us quietly, never shame us in front of others.  When you show anger, we can’t hear anything you have to say.  If of which’s something truly hard or big, please find a person we can both listen to who can mediate for us.  of which’s how we do things here.

Our favorite things:  when you contain a commitment to teach, to pass on your role, to give us your skills, to invest in training us. When you treat us as equal partners, when you notice us doing something right as well as point of which out, when you ask our opinion as well as we can see we have something to contribute.  When you introduce us with respect, or tell others to listen to us, let your children play with ours.  When we can pray for each additional.  When you remember us after you leave, as well as keep in touch.

Thanks for listening,
Your friends who put up with you for the last 25 years

Advice to Oursevles

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